After work today, Spencer and I had a nice meal at a local pizza buffet. It wasn't exactly a quiet meal, but it tasted good. However, the place was crawling with kids, and one toddler behind us gave out a couple primal howls that made us both cringe.
That's one reason [among others] that we probably couldn't be a poly "family" with kids and all...we're just not parent material. We wouldn't treat kids badly or anything, but we don't go out of our way to be around any, and for sure don't want to live with any! Four-legged furbabies are our speed.
Cary does have children, but I rarely interact with them, since they aren't aware of their parents' lifestyle. However, they seem to be great kids, and I know he puts them first in his life, which I love him even more for. I have on occasion daydreamed that if Spencer and I had to be apart for awhile to sort things out, I could live with Cary and his wife, be their girlfriend, and a helper with the kids. But then I think...naah...I couldn't do it lol I'm actually a little afraid of kids, and I'd probably end up like on that I Love Lucy episode, where Lucy babysat those terrible twins and they played cowboys and Indians and tied her to a chair!
Spencer and I have made the decision to be child-free by choice, and that's probably how we'd better stay.
'Night all,
~Pym
Even people with kids cringe at those toddler howls. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that you and Spencer know what is best for you! Women are so often pressured to have children. But really, it's not for everyone, not only because it's a lot of work and commitment, but because not everybody really finds kids all that fun. Having a womb doesn't mean you have to use it! :) And the world has plenty of people in it already.
Best wishes to you all.