Cary and Amanda

How did I meet Cary, and Spencer meet Amanda?

It's taken years for Spencer and me to get to this point. We've each had other relationships since we've been together and either gotten hurt, or Spencer pissed 'em off in a drunken stupor.

In another post I'll start telling those tales from our early experiments, but since Cary and Amanda are our most recent lovers, and very important to us, I'll begin with them.

Amanda is connected with my job [I won't get too detailed for reasons of discretion] but through me is how Spencer met her. He's incredibly flirtatious and if he gets a response he's off and running. And finding Amanda on the same friendship/dating site where we have profiles gave him an opening to strike up more daring flirtations and see where it would lead.

I can't say I even remember when they first got together, but apparently they are very sexually compatible [she's kinkier than I...and she swallows]. However they also have communication issues. Worse even than he and I do. I'm just not sure why they have trouble getting along, or why they've bothered staying together for this long. Maybe they're too much like one another or never learned good communication skills; I can't figure it out. Neither can they, as they just had a cyber-argument this afternoon. Sometimes I do wish they'd amicably part and move on, only so I wouldn't have to referee so much.

And I do really love Amanda as a friend. She's been a listening ear to me when Spencer and I have had difficulties. And she's had a taste of dealing with his alcoholism when he's over done it at her place. I admit it is sometimes hard to keep a conversation going with her though, and that's not for lack of smarts on her part -- she's super smart -- but it's always the brainy ones that it's hard to communicate with. They're probably already way ahead of the rest of us and thinking of something else already.

Cary is someone I've known for years as an acquaintance, but never knew he and his wife had open interests. Several times Spencer and I would see him and we'd all talk, and his and my eyes would meet and I'd think...oh, God, I wonder if I'd ever be so lucky as to do "it" with him. His eyes would often show interest, but I couldn't take the chance to [figuratively] feel things out.

Over a year later, though, I found him on the same site we'd seen Amanda and I took a risk of severely embarrassing myself and friended him. A few initial emails built up into instant messaging, and us meeting him and his wife for dinner. Spencer didn't seem to hit it off with Cary's wife, but Cary and I have built up a friendship and quite a hot and steamy sex life, with a side order of kink and a heavy dollop of love.

He's introduced me to experiences that were totally new to me, as well as spiritual, in the way of sacred sex. Next I hope he can show me some Tantra. Even sexting is great with him...and as my cell has a vibration setting, I may never look at my phone in the same way again.

--Pym